Friday, July 27, 2012

He's not thirsty for you

Photo courtesy of Ziggy Rayford-Washington DC
I must admit. I was a little late when it came to the slang word "thirsty". I kept seeing this word all over twitter and had no clue what it meant. One day I decided to use the good ole trusty google search to find out what the definition meant. According to, the top voted definitions of the slang term "thirsty" are:

1. Too eager to get something (especially play) 

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2.  Desperate

Ex. (Boy running up) "Ay gurl whasup? Look, you lookin real nice, can I get that young    number?" 
(Girl under breath) "Thirsty"

At first, I thought the definition was funny. The example given didn't seem desperate though. After a while, just like the phrase YOLO (you only live once), I started to get tired of seeing it being misused by men and women. I think it is very important that men and women learn early on that not EVERY man or woman that talks to you or shows interest is necessarily "thirsty". It is very important that men/women learn how to take a compliment and or decline someone's invitation to take them out respectfully without being rude and bruising the male and/or female ego.
Women also have to remember that sometimes men will give women compliments and leave it at that. It does not mean they want more from you. They just wanted to let you know you look nice, pretty, and etc. I think women these days are programed to think all men just want one thing from them. That may be true for some men but not all. I learned this lesson early on. 
My Personal Experience
I was a sophomore in college and still staying on campus. I had to walk from my dorm to the other side of campus for one of my classes. As I walked outside the dorm, there was a young man walking towards the same direction I was headed. I believe he was a student. He looked young enough and had a back pack. After about a minute or so of walking he stopped me to tell me I was beautiful. I was caught a little off guard and the only thing I could think to say in response was "thank you!" He then again complimented me on being able to take a compliment. He said he thought it was cool because most girls act like guys want them when they get compliments. We then went our separate ways and I never saw him again. That's when I realized how important it is to never assume every dude wants you because they are speaking to you.

I think it is immature and silly for a woman to call a man thirsty for trying to get to know her. A prime example is the screenshot below:
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Granted, this conversation probably should not happen through text. I don't see anything "thirsty" about this man asking this woman this question. She was so quick to call him thirsty, take a screenshot of the photo, and tweet it for the world to see saying, "I laughed when I sent this." She did all of this for twitter attention. Who is really thirsty? Guys on twitter making fun of young women like this all the time. 

How do you determine if a guy is thirsty?

The number one way to determine if a person is thirsty is if after several failed attempts to get to know you or get your contact information, he still is persistent and keeps trying to make a connection, after you made it clear you do not want that person. He might be thirsty. Other than that, just take those compliments as just that...compliments! If someone is showing interest for the first time, give the guy a break! He thinks you're pretty and wants to get to know you better. What's wrong with that? Especially if you are single.

What is your definition of thirsty? Have you ever been thirsty for someone before? Leave a comment and let me know what you think :-)



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